See, we have all been raised by TV to like a certain type...generally speaking that type is slim, average height to tall, blonde, long flowing locks and busty. This is what society has dictated that we idealize....or any variation of those themes. This is why Black women always straighten their hair...because thanks to years and years of programming, NO ONE considers a Black womans natural hair attractive.

I've been waiting for this...

You are NOT SUPPOSED to be looking at hot chicks, waiting for them to check you out...you are supposed to be looking to see WHO IS checking you out!

Generally speaking, I don't do this.

I do only one of two things; First look at the woman in total appreciation of her (as her being, not her beauty) - this I've found to be most effective, with women approaching me, waving at me, saying 'hello!' etc.

The second thing I do is, look away from the women, in total appreciation of the sky/where I am/how great my life is. This tends to get the girl to look at me, quite blatently, for lengthy periods. However, when I 'catch' her looking at me, she looks away in guilt. I have never apporached a woman under those conditions though.

My question to you is, when you're walking down the street, do you look at every girl, do you look at some girls (that catch the eye), or do you ignore them completely?

Practically, how does it translate in your experience?

peregrinus would say: 'just let go' but I don't know how...

anyone else besides The Kidd who can offer advise is welcome

Different folks have different tastes and different things going on in their lives...it is what it is.

This has been one of my biggest realizations lately to get over the fact if a certain girl doesn't like me. Filet mignon is fucking awesome! But there could be 2 billion people in the world that HATE filet mignon and instead prefer fish...yet that doesnt make filet mignon bad because there are 4 billion other people who like it. Different girls have different tastes, that's all.

Isn't this obvious ? Like that the sky is blue.. Yet you called my definition a pedestal in other thread... I'm confused, is the line between pedestal and realisation of a fact so thin ?

The fuck are you talking about?

This has been one of my biggest realizations lately to get over the fact if a certain girl doesn't like me. Filet mignon is fucking awesome! But there could be 2 billion people in the world that HATE filet mignon and instead prefer fish...yet that doesnt make filet mignon bad because there are 4 billion other people who like it. Different girls have different tastes, that's all.

It was addresed to kidd, not you personally - I started a thread and I wrote there I can identify what girls I'm attracted to, I found out it's about face types for me and guys (consciously or unconsciously) and it has been called a pedestal on my part. Yet I see it as a further exploration of the fact that everybody has different "taste" as it has been discused here now.

Right but see...since women are the 'choosers', your opinion ultimately matters not, see? While you are stuck on waiting for a certain face type to finally approve you, you are missing out on so many other beautiful women who may be chomping at the bit to get your attention...and would do almost anything and everything to keep it.

I don't even have a type...my women are all over the MAP! I don't know what I like until I see it...and by that I mean that I usually take inventory of who likes me then pick the ones I like best.

Right but see...since women are the 'choosers', your opinion ultimately matters not, see? While you are stuck on waiting for a certain face type to finally approve you, you are missing out on so many other beautiful women who may be chomping at the bit to get your attention...and would do almost anything and everything to keep it.

I don't even have a type...my women are all over the MAP! I don't know what I like until I see it...and by that I mean that I usually take inventory of who likes me then pick the ones I like best.

Right but see...since women are the 'choosers', your opinion ultimately matters not, see? While you are stuck on waiting for a certain face type to finally approve you, you are missing out on so many other beautiful women who may be chomping at the bit to get your attention...and would do almost anything and everything to keep it.

I don't even have a type...my women are all over the MAP! I don't know what I like until I see it...and by that I mean that I usually take inventory of who likes me then pick the ones I like best.