She would have probably acted like she didn't know me, or if she saw me coming toward her would have gotten the fuck out of a potentially threatening situation and quickly ducked back into the safety of the bar. She would have seen me as a threat too.
Right!
I am not suggesting you do the same.
Ok, so honestly, this thread was pissing me the fuck off...until I answered that last question.
I got that feeling previously, it told me there was something underneath this.
My intent was not to piss you off, it was to reach that which was underneath, unfortunately doing that involved raising your hackles somewhat.
So it was sort of a clash of a safe normal person, and two potentially dangerous people.
Which is more important in this situation? I would say the potentially dangerous ones. They all need observing and assessing, however divide your resources wisely.
You also do not know what happened previous to them turning the corner.
But then again, where's the line for living your life in fear.
Some fear is healthy, it is a natural reaction. Uncontrollable fear is not healthy.
Feel your fear, accept it and ask yourself why you feel it, observe your surroundings and see what has sparked it, is it valid? are you overreacting? is it for a good reason?
What would you have done in this scenario 'grinus? And what would your suggestions be for handling this situation if someone else found themselves in it?
it's properly and quickly assessing the situation.
I would have observed the situation, as I would have been doing before they came along, during the events as they unfolded, continually, listen to my gut, listen to my intuition, continue assessing the situation and respond appropriately to what I felt, saw and thought.
Given the situation you describe, I would have stayed near the door (as you did) and let her come to me. I would not have gone away from the bar towards her. I would not immediately have ducked back into the bar, as them being observed would temper their actions, however the bar was there if needed - not just to go in, but to bring others out.
If she had been in trouble, I would
NOT have waded in alone, I would have got backup from the bar. because (a) more witnesses to what was happening (b) the two would be more likely to clear off quicker (c) I do not know what they are capable of.
I can say, it would make no difference to my actions how hot or attractive she was or how young or old she was.
It comes down to observation and situational awareness, listening to your gut and applying logic to the whole lot.
Note: you still answered the first three questions from your perspective, after the fact, not before.
also, to rant... regarding your quote:
i have see women being hit by her husbands or boyfriends, and i don't do nothing because if you get in the middle, she and her husband or boyfriend will beat the shit out of you, becasue for them, it's not your bussiness
This is a nightmare to wade into, have seen people make this mistake. More often that not as you say, they will both turn on you for interfering. They will temporarily forget their dispute and gang up on you, then go back to fighting amongst themselves afterwards. Quite bizarre but have seen it too many times to believe it will be any other way.