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First time out in almost 6 months
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Author:  Altair [ Sun Mar 13, 2011 10:49 pm ]
Post subject:  First time out in almost 6 months
The two main things that happened were

About 2 minutes after entering the club, this blond girl that was really short came up to me and waved. The main thing I'm noticing from not going out very much is that I'm super passive. The guy I came with was like you know her? And I said no, but rather than go talk to her I went to hang up my coat. Really passive.

And at the end of the night, getting in line for coat check. My friend introduced me to two girls, we talked about random stuff, shes a masters in psych so we talked about all that, where they're from, they ask me what i do, I nonchalantly mention that I work on a drilling rig. They're coming to get food with us after the the club, decline to come to a hot tub after. Everything is a done deal.
Then I over heard them be like to my friends partner well thank you anyways....not a done deal lol.

Lessons?

1. My social butterfly muscles have atrophed ;) , my friends had to push me into every situation, and do the introductions.
2. Why those girls bailed is a mystery to me. No lessons observed.
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 1:19 pm ]
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They bailed because you were TOO passive lol...they couldn't sense any intent or interest at ALL. :lol:
Author:  Alchemist [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 4:48 pm ]
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The Kidd!! wrote:
They bailed because you were TOO passive lol...they couldn't sense any intent or interest at ALL. :lol:
I assumed this would create intrigue, cuz they can't tell where he's coming from.
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 5:34 pm ]
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Alchemist wrote:
The Kidd!! wrote:
They bailed because you were TOO passive lol...they couldn't sense any intent or interest at ALL. :lol:
I assumed this would create intrigue, cuz they can't tell where he's coming from.
Yeah, but if you to at least give them an inkling that you might be interested...
Author:  Altair [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 9:04 pm ]
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maybe..i was in a zen like state of non reactiveness though
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 9:42 pm ]
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Morpheus wrote:
maybe..i was in a zen like state of non reactiveness though
Nothing wrong with that. Plenty of times I've gone out and I'm just happy to be out of the house. Conversely, when I got home I wasn't concerned about why I didn't land any fish either. :lol:
Author:  Altair [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 11:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: First time out in almost 6 months
I need to find more of a balance though I think, I lost my mojo i guess would be the best word. Like when I used to walk into a club I had this I don't know how to describe it. But I have this really clear feeling all the time when I go out now, non-reactive and calm...but I don't care about anyone.

Edit: I wonder if that's the same principal that applies to club girls? Sometimes they're not being standoffish they really are just passive and put no intent out.
Author:  peregrinus [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 9:21 pm ]
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Morpheus wrote:
But I have this really clear feeling all the time when I go out now, non-reactive and calm...but I don't care about anyone.
Good!

Now accept it.
Author:  rant [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 9:32 pm ]
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peregrinus wrote:
Morpheus wrote:
But I have this really clear feeling all the time when I go out now, non-reactive and calm...but I don't care about anyone.
Good!

Now accept it.

what do you mean by accept it, he has not accept it yet and why?
Author:  Altair [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 11:33 pm ]
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peregrinus wrote:
Morpheus wrote:
But I have this really clear feeling all the time when I go out now, non-reactive and calm...but I don't care about anyone.
Good!

Now accept it.
It feels weaker though, its not the same as the stronger internal state I used to feel. You know what I mean?
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 11:34 pm ]
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I sense you are wary of fully accepting it...and that is what is holding you back. You must let it completely engulf you...fear not. 8-)
Author:  Altair [ Wed Mar 16, 2011 12:55 am ]
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The Kidd!! wrote:
I sense you are wary of fully accepting it...and that is what is holding you back. You must let it completely engulf you...fear not. 8-)
A little it feels like weakness, but I'll give it a try
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