| Sniper wrote: |
you said that most women who act nice (not talking about an X-factor here) are insecure.
Completely agree, you will start to notice it more your self when you finally understand it. I have experienced this not just with friends but my ex girlfriend of 9 months.She is prime example, I guess you could say she was 'my' x factor she hardly gave me trouble but she would act out from time to time. The best example I could give you is when she woke me up out of my sleep to ask a question of why I chose to be with her (sneaky bitch
). She said there were other girls much prettier than her and blah blah blah, I told her because I like you you are by far the coolest female I've been with don't play games and I felt a connection I don't feel around most of them (this is before I truly understood what it meant to a have a connection and be in love 
).There were a few other times to where I had to reassure about things but whatever. But even before we hooked up she always seemed to be a pessimist and didn't feel like she amounted to much, Then she had a an ex boyfriend that was always stalking her. Now that I think about it I was probably the best thing that happened in her life everything else just seems like it falls apart for her.
I know you said you weren't talking about x factors but she was actually the best point I could bring up. Another point I could bring up is there are quite a few girls I talk to at my job everyday and they always seem scary no confidence they don't think highly of themselves, most likely the environment they was brought up in. The best thing I could say is look back in your past Sniper if you ever felt you were just nice most of us on this board say it all the time.
Especially me
Approval of others, knowing we are of use or loved by another that we 'care' for. I hope you are able to understand this post this was actually a lot harder to form in words than I thought but I hope it put a light bulb in your head.
