Perhaps, I don't see how there is no game in the texting. She texted me first, and offered a backrub without any prompting by me.
Cool, she offered you a backrub. It's different that she would the bar/nightclub as the perfect setting, and a public space as the perfect time. Did you attempt to get her to come over to your place? Where you only interested in the number?
Below is your text conversation and facts of the situation.
Texted a bit today, she texted me last night and then didn't respond. So I went to sleep this morning she texted me saying sorry fell asleep. I went back to bed without texting back. Then she waited 3 hours to get back to me when I finally got back to her so I waited 4. Then she waited 2 hours, I decided I'll text her back tomorrow.
When she texted me saying sorry.
I said "Falling asleep in a conversation, that's pretty much unforgivable.
"
She said "oooh
lol"
I said "Yep totally serious right now"
She said Lol.Silly.ugh...have some serious bad shit going on right now.
I said "hey, I got busy...what's wrong?"
She said "just home stuff...mainly"
So when I text tomorrow, I'll probably just lend an ear. Think that's the best option?
A. She fell asleep texting you the previous night. This indicates that you were texting too much because she got bored. What could have played out if she was genuinely interested in you after all that texting is a text or call asking you to come over or asking to come to your place. This did not occur. I have a question.
Have you ever received late night texts or calls from females at random times? If you don't get these every so often then it's a measuring stick that you are doing too much.
B. After you went back to sleep today you text her. She was not in a hurry to respond to your messages. This is an indicator that you are giving too much contact with her, or you are not saying relevant shit.
C. You say some cute shit and she hits you with her problems. She does not respect you and wants to see if you fall in the trap of talking about her problems like her gay friends and the satellites of guys on the periphery of her life.
D. You give her an excuse as to why you responded lately, and again this female takes her precious and well wasted time in getting back to you.
E. You ask if you should lend an ear to hear the problems of a female who doesn't give a shit about keeping in contact with you.
People don't like to feel that they are under someone else's influence. I will not reveal that am conscious of some the factors at play
1. Whose influence are you worried about right now? Are you worried about the influence that I might have on you? Are you worried about the influence that this female is having on you? Are you worried about the influence you could have on this female?
You should be worried about the influence that this female is having you, and you should be worried about the influence that you do not have on this female. She is getting you to text and worry about her life situation just because she has pussy and is giving you some attention.
2. Forget revealing being conscious of what ever factors that you are making up in your head. You are ignoring the factors of your current situation and hitting your head on a brick wall.
3. You're worried about giving away your hand. That is important, and it is good to be aware of this fact.
4. Can you list all of the factors that you believe are at play, which you think that I'm giving up when I talk to females?
I care because thats the type of person I am that is one of my principals. Same if a friend wanted to talk about stuff. Besides I can gain some insight in hOw things are.
What does this statement mean?
These two sentences are hard for me to even understand.
What friend? What insight? What principle?
If you're talking about not giving up important factors at play then the literal interpretation of what you're saying is that one of your principals is to not let your friends now about the factors at play in your relationship. The literal interpretation of your last sentence about insight in the current context means that hiding information from your friend about the way you view your relationship and how your relationships works will give you insight into who he is as a person.
If this is the context you're trying to communicate then honesty is a huge issue for you. People can sense when you have something to hide dude, and my gut is screaming to me that you are not only hiding motivations, but you are also misrepresenting yourself to these women.
Being honest with a woman in the right way is so easy and so rewarding. Don't take my word for it. Try it yourself.
How's all this aloof stuff working for you? Not an attack just curious.
1. Discretion is a huge part of my aloofness. Women know it upfront and they appreciate it not just because I state it but because I show it. They love hearing when I say that I won't divulge names or pictures. They ear hustle so hard they sometimes butt into conversations with my guy friends saying what? or Who?. Most of the time I do not say what I did with the female. I usually tell them how females are acting and what they did for me. I talk about how I check them, what their values are, how they treat me etc.
2. Its all about space and boundaries. The women feel so close to me (knowing me etc.), but they feel so far away (distance and my attitude). They respond quickly to all my messages and calls when I get back to their messages and calls 8 minutes, 8 hours, 2 days, or a week later. They know my phone is not on my person all the time. It frequently stays in my room for consecutive days at time, and I only bother to grab my phone if I see messages and calls when I first wake up in the morning. They know that when my phone is turned off that I'm handling serious business.
3. I have a few females in my fan club right now. I'm contemplating my first threesome (basically I'm chillin on it until two females as to come over at the same night and time); however, I'm concerned about the space of my room. It's a small room, and I only have one twin size bed. It is also customary for me to allow females to sleep over after sex in my room. I look forward to kicking out both of them after they fuck me and each other since the women in my fan club are total freaks.
4. I have a 50-50 shot at adding a new female to my fan club over Thanksgiving break at school. I'm stuck on campus, and she will be stuck on campus also. She has started showing increased interest in me after I did some serious brain damage to her belief that I'm susceptible to pussy. She has stated twice that she will definitely come over to my during break if she does not get some house sitting job that she applied for. Otherwise, she says I'm welcome to come over to the place she's house sitting. Since it is technically not her room it falls outside of rule about not going to her room. I'm actually looking forward to fucking on some random person's sheets and adding sex stains.
5. I have started receiving small gifts from the women that I am seeing currently, and I do not believe that this trend will end anytime soon. I'm thinking about pratting these women up to contribute to the, getting my hair died fund. Charitable contributions are never denied no matter how small they are. I'm having fun thinking about every thing that I want materializing in front of me.
Women get dick offered to them on a daily basis as long as I'm not spending money I don't really care.
What does relation does this have to the thread? I thought the point of the thread was to talk about improving the number of females in your harem. If you are doing fine getting dates and you're not paying then more power to you. I just thought this thread was about increasing the notches on your bedpost.
If I have to approach or whatever so I can get past security so I can get into the embassy so be it.
What the hell does this mean? It sounds like some terrorist shit. Is the bar/nightclub that you frequent called the Embassy?
If you want to speak to females first that's cool, and it is totally understandable because most of the females you see you will never see again, which is more than enough reason to not pass on an opportunity to speak to a person; however, the opposite is true for females you have already met and interacted with at another time and place. You want to give those females an opportunity to speak to you first so that you see if they are genuinely interested in you, hanging around in a social spot near the lone female or group. I never speak to females first that I have already met in the local bar that I go to. They already no my principle about not speaking to friends first to give them a chance to see if they want to talk with me at that current time. Interestingly enough, about one third and some nights one half of the females that I've spoken to at the bar speak to me first when I grace the establishment with my presence.
I wouldn't say those things they sound too contrived.
I looked up the definition of contrived because I wanted an exact meaning:
1. Deliberately created rather than arising naturally or spontaneously.
2. Giving a sense of artificiality.
The pratting that I posted in my previous post is built off of every thought, phrase, and effect that my speaking on had females when I was talking to them. Truthfully, those lines are not contrived. Those lines are decontextualized thoughts that I normally voice when speaking to women and men. All that of those lines flew naturally from my uninterrupted stream of consciousness, thinking about talking to a female the genuinely likes me.
It is up to you whether or not you want to build off of those principles, rules, and thoughts that I laid out. I would appreciate it if you took the time to try out what I'm saying and see if your results change and see if your life gets easier with handling women. I know for a fact that if you tried out those lines even if the women don't like what you're saying they will respect what you are saying as long as those thoughts, lines, and phrases are honest and true to you. That is why I said take them, and make it into your own phrases, principles, and rules.
Concluding Thoughts: I have a strong feeling you didn't read my other two posts. Especially the first post breaking this shit down to you. If your gut isn't telling you that something was wrong here in these situations then I don't know what to say besides the fact that you are not listening to your gut until it is too late. Seriously, it feels like you're purposefully not trying to understand and evaluate the truth that I'm spitting. I said I wouldn't give you an in-depth critique again, and I broke my word because I was so fucking bored and burnt of doing school work. I hope you appreciate the time I took because I've dedicated about 4 hours of straight typing to break down your situation and tell you where and why I think you're having problems.