I want to get rid of my urge to have sex (something I don't always find easy...)
it's not like I can't control myself or think about it all day- but I can't be indifferent to it.
how did you do it?
Ok Snipes, this works, you may think I'm just messing with you but I'm not, if you actually do this it'll cure you...as it did me.
Disclaimer: First of all every guy jerks off so anybody that says they don't is full of fucking shit.
Do this exercise... There is definitely a girl you are attracted to and want to fuck right now, it may be someone you know or someone you don't but just see on tv, some celebrity bitch, whomever. I want you go to your bathroom or wherever the fuck you yank it, and I want you to think of that girl while you're yank'n it, create a scene in your mind with her, really vivid.
Now the important part: The first 15 seconds after you're done I want you to think of her, still in that scene laying in the bed beside her. I GUARANTEE the lust you felt before you blew your load is gone and you're thinking fuck that, I'd want to get out of there and go golf or whatever you like to do, you're going to have very little interest in her. The lust and feeling of wanting to fuck her will be GONE....but it will come back very shortly as your testosterone peaks back up, but for that short while, and I mean like 15-30 seconds afterwards, you really wouldn't want to be with her, you'd be over it.
The trick is to really remember that feeling of not wanting her afterwards, that it's just your hormones, that after you bust you'll have no interest in her and want to leave to do your own thing.
This way you can look at any girl you find attractive and be pretty much indifferent of fucking her.