but what if nobody liked me anymore, what if my friends ditched me, what if no girl was attracted to me ever again, what if....
...How would I live life?
Basically if I didn't expect anything from life anymore, who would I be?
I didn't expect any of this to be posted but sniper asked so I said sure. I'll just explain a little bit more. This was probably almost 4 years ago now that I went through this "thought exercise". I was deep into the PUA stuff. It consumed me. I'll note also that I went through exactly what a recent thread discussed where I was led to believe by pickup artist sales copy that I should be able to magically attract every single girl out there. All or nothing or I would feel like shit about myself. This caused me to be so needy for signs of attraction, and I would look at every single girl
needing a
sign of attraction from her or I would feel terrible and go looking for the next $300 product that promised this impossible ideal.
I also read a little bit of Rion at this time
But I was going out and approaching up to 20 girls a night, approaching girls on the street trying every new magical tactic. Trying really hard, it got me all of nowhere.
Finally I was basically broke and worn myself way too thin from going out to bars every night, not getting enough sleep and sick of not getting girls for all the money I was spending. So I decided to take a break from it all.
It was during this time that I came up with the thought exercise of "what if God himself told me no girls would be attracted to you at all in this lifetime" also "what if I didn't need anything from anyone" and alternatively sometimes "What if I had more girls than I had time for"
How would I live my life, how would I be?
This isn't giving up, or folding, or quitting at life or anything, alternatively I found it released a lot of these bullshit unrealistic beliefs that PUA's instilled in me and It rather, freed me of a lot of emotional baggage and bad emotions.
For instance, when I really gave time to the question "what if God himself came down and said no girl will ever be attracted to you in this life, you will be alone your whole life" This is what I found after accepting this as a thought exercise and being truthful to myself. first of all I would not give up on life, i might be depressed for a liittle while, but wouldn't end it or anything. Like any bummer in life, it sucks but then you eventually accept it and move on. I found accepting this as a possibility to be very freeing. I also learned a lot about myself and how I really want to be as a person. Here's some more of what I found when answering honestly:
I would still go out to the bars, but would just enjoy myself. I would still check out gorgeous girls, they just wouldn't be THE reason for going out, I would maybe even talk to them if they seemed interesting. But it would be from a totally different mindset. I wouldn't keep trying to be funny if I didn't feel like it to try to convert them into being attracted to me. I wouldn't tell exaggerated "DHV's" to make them think I'm cool. I would be real, in fact I would probably ask a lot of questions to learn more about who they are as a person. I wouldn't approach or feel like I have to approach every single girl out there to master the "art of pickup". I wouldn't do bullshit for a girl just to possibly get some tail. I would be focused on myself, being healthy, making money at something I enjoyed, I would do things I wanted to do. And on and on and on.
I found a great transformation in myself after this time, and I also found that when I went to the bar, enjoyed myself and gave up on the idea of trying to get chics or to be this super pick up artist who gets every girl, I started to become aware that in fact girls were looking at me frequently, and a couple even approached. (This didn't happen before because I didn't provide the space. I was too busy and too quickly approaching every single girl I could within 3 seconds being creepy wanabe player guy)
I then noticed a girl who kept looking over at me, so I thought what the hell lets go talk to her, but no PUA crap!! I thought for sure it would be a lame conversation and she'd blow me off. I think I asked her how's it going, what's her name, what does she do, where is she from, talked about the weather (all no no's right? wrong), and she reciprocated with the conversation. She asked me to come to a different bar with her and her friends and then ended up asking for *my* number and texted me the next day. This was eye opening, and a turning point in my life.
Maybe this helps some of you, I don't know it's just what I did years ago before I knew of a place like this. But honestly, you could just drop all your preconceived notions, read Kidd's stuff and live the high life.
That whole story culminates in what amounts to the long way to Observation and then doing exactly as Kidd has spelled out from there.
Getting girls is not that hard, go to a bar, you notice a girl who keeps looking at you, you go say how's it going, have some normal chit chat like you would if you ran into a friend, and it will honestly just happen because she likes you and you don't do any dumb PUA shit to fuck it up.
*Shrugs*,
EDIT for clarification: (I call these thought exercises so nobody gets confused and thinks it's law of attraction or some other snake oil. It simply helped me to learn and become more aware of myself, like in the OP where I found I was trying to be funny to
try and get a girl attracted to me. This is needy. So I am now aware, it's now up to me to drop this)
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