Oh! Well, that's not what I wanted it to come across. lol
What I meant was the community introduces a lot of compulsions in our heads. I remember when I first read Mystery Method, introduces us to an idea of "Approach Anxiety". First time I didn't ready full book and just used the first opener in field without even thinking about it. I was very successful - considering my lame standards of success back in the day - oh! a girl smiled at my joke! Yay! I'm successful.
It's only after I read the approach anxiety section did I start to feel anxious.
The point being, we take on a lot of fears and limiting beliefs without even assessing them.
Yeah, so just focus on being enough, focus on the fact that you still have mouth you can talk out of and a girl validating you or devalidating you is irrelevant.
Ultimately, it all boils down to "outcome independence" but I liked how Alex presented that idea.
@sniper:
Sure, I'll read those posts, thanks
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